End of Semester....
and what a day it was!!!
I had a tutorial discussion on Justice and Christianity - and there are 3-4 people who want to chat more about it with me over email. God is an amazing God, and I pray he uses these discussions and that people come to know him.
The rest of the day was possibly the cruisiest thing ever. Nothing to do but play cards and shoot holes in "Mick's theory of Men tm." I found it very interesting that most guys tend to agree with MOST of Mick theory of men tm. There is 100% agreement that when a guy is keen - or thinking of being keen - he spends substancially more time with that girl. I have also found that there has not been many women who are happy with Mick's theory of men tm, several of whom have told me that I am wrong :-)
The issues have arisen with intentional and circumstancial time, and what do you make of time spent with girls when you are NOT keen. More importantly - I don't have all the answers, I never claimed to, but I reckon this is quite possibly a one of the better indicators that you can get. Here are some of the objections brought forth about Mick's theory of men tm... Mostly raised by the prestigious Tim Pedley :)
Question: Can't you make intentional time look like circumstancial time?
Answer: Yes. Fact is guys are pretty good at this. Me personally, I try and make it as bleedingly obvious as possible... I'm not trying to hide the fact that I have interest, heck to some extent I am more worried that you haven't noticed. if you are a guy - blunt works better than subtle + you suck at subtle... it leads only to confused.
Question: wouldn't people who are not keen but are good friends also spend intentional time with each other?
Answer: Yes. And it is at this point that one of the underlying things about intentional time comes into play. I agree that people can have a completely normal friendship - and can see each other intentionally. Sure! I do it regularly myself. However this intentional time is completely fitting within the context of the relationship. With a close friend perhaps it is once a week. Heck - Greg is one of my closest friends - and I see him intentionally once a week.... it is timetabled in!
What I am talking about is intentional time spent - where the hours spent exceeds the (perceived) stage of the friendship.
I had a tutorial discussion on Justice and Christianity - and there are 3-4 people who want to chat more about it with me over email. God is an amazing God, and I pray he uses these discussions and that people come to know him.
The rest of the day was possibly the cruisiest thing ever. Nothing to do but play cards and shoot holes in "Mick's theory of Men tm." I found it very interesting that most guys tend to agree with MOST of Mick theory of men tm. There is 100% agreement that when a guy is keen - or thinking of being keen - he spends substancially more time with that girl. I have also found that there has not been many women who are happy with Mick's theory of men tm, several of whom have told me that I am wrong :-)
The issues have arisen with intentional and circumstancial time, and what do you make of time spent with girls when you are NOT keen. More importantly - I don't have all the answers, I never claimed to, but I reckon this is quite possibly a one of the better indicators that you can get. Here are some of the objections brought forth about Mick's theory of men tm... Mostly raised by the prestigious Tim Pedley :)
Question: Can't you make intentional time look like circumstancial time?
Answer: Yes. Fact is guys are pretty good at this. Me personally, I try and make it as bleedingly obvious as possible... I'm not trying to hide the fact that I have interest, heck to some extent I am more worried that you haven't noticed. if you are a guy - blunt works better than subtle + you suck at subtle... it leads only to confused.
Question: wouldn't people who are not keen but are good friends also spend intentional time with each other?
Answer: Yes. And it is at this point that one of the underlying things about intentional time comes into play. I agree that people can have a completely normal friendship - and can see each other intentionally. Sure! I do it regularly myself. However this intentional time is completely fitting within the context of the relationship. With a close friend perhaps it is once a week. Heck - Greg is one of my closest friends - and I see him intentionally once a week.... it is timetabled in!
What I am talking about is intentional time spent - where the hours spent exceeds the (perceived) stage of the friendship.
posted by Mick at 4:41 PM
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What's the Justice and Christianity issue?
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As an advocate of Mick's Theory of Men, I still have to admit it has flaws. For instance, the guy may only have the desire to spend intentional time with the girl, but lack the guts. Or it may be impossible to spend intentional time altogether. In general though it's pretty accurate.
Praise God for that tute discussion! How awesome!
Hey Matt!
last week in my Analysis Information Systems subject, We were given a 5 minute presentation in which we had to talk on any topic that we wanted.
I chose to speak about Christianity and Justice. It was really good - led to a lot of really interesting conversations after the tutorial - and my tutor asked me whether I would be able to open up the topic to discussion in the tutorial today. -> hence the stuff today.
Was really awesome stuff!
Guys who lack guts to spend intentional time, will spend intentional time disguised as circumstancial time. they will amek excuses for why they are there at that time etc etc etc.
I'm not sure that it's impossible to spend intentional time with someone. I personally have no problem rearranging my timetable in such a fashion as I am able to MAKE intentional time. I reckon most guys can, and do, make intentional time.... is a simple matter of prioritisation.
Intentional and circumstantial- it doesn't matter, because we're girls. We over analyse and we talk way too much. Sorry I cut down your theory Mick, you probably know better than I do- being a guy and all. Though it never seizes to amaze me how... er... visually directed guys can be (says the girl who rates people on her blog). Even more so, how much girls are willing to put up with it.
Won't the real Matty P, please stand up, please stand up.
Hey Sonia,
analysis is a good thing. over-analysis is when analysis becomes purely what you want it to be. Its good to think things through and think about things. To over do it is a bad thing though.
Visual directedness of guys. Look I ain't going to deny it. Guys can be very visualy directed. That being said - It has not passed attention that yourself and Bronni have certainly made some comments with regard to some rather studish gentlemen within terrace at times.. *cough* Tim Pedley. :P
Important to say that what we see is not who we are - and not how we percieve people.
Tim - I know you an I differ in spots. We both agree on the premise though. Guys who are keen - look to spend more time with girls they are keen on.
We've never talked about Tim in 'that' way- all the guys in engineering and education- now that's a different story... also hot guy at Azzuris's... coffee from there suddenly tastes so much better. Having said that we're never serious in these conversations.
Hey Bron!
am glad that at least one of you is at least honest about Mr Pedley's awesome physique :P.
Over-analysis is not just a girl thing. I reckon I overanalize (I can only speak personally for myself not for guys as a whole), particularly about big things, and so I kinda know where you are coming from there...
I generally try to be very controlled about it... because I find it very easy to make things into something more than they are.
The story of my life Mick... I second you on that
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